Shades of Gray

I am a passionate person.

Really. I feel emotions very strongly (sometimes too much so), and although sometimes it can be a bit exhausting, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Having passion adds depth and color to my world, and I can’t imagine surviving the dullness that would pervade if I lost that. As such, I honestly believe that I will never be truly happy with a man who doesn’t feel things as strongly as I do. I know that plenty of people don’t get as fired up about issues or events or people/places/things as I do, and that’s totally fine. But I don’t think a guy could really understand or appreciate my particular worldview if he didn’t share that one quality.

That being said..

I’m realizing just how much I hate it when guys come on too strong too soon. Which probably sounds like a total contradiction to what I just said. 

It gets especially complicated when you add the fact that I’m really attracted to very straight-forward, forthright guys. I don’t like games - I respond best if a guy just flat out tells me he’s interested.

But if a guy starts telling me that I’m amazing or perfect, or that I’m somehow exactly what he’s looking for within 4 days of talking - yeah, I’m probably just going to be annoyed. First of all, I’m a real person. I am in no way perfect. So please don’t put me up on a pedestal, because it’s basically setting me up to fall short of expectations. Also, when a guy starts fawning over me so quickly, it just seems insincere. I like a nice compliment as well as the next girl, but it has to be deserved. And after only a few days, I’ve certainly done nothing to be deemed “amazing”. Save it for a time when I actually deserve it.

So, by all means - bring on the enthusiasm, the passion, and the transparency. But lay off the candy coated-compliments until we actually go on a date. K?

Sigh. Ok, end rant. Thanks for listening.

Does anyone else even remotely relate to my frustration??